There’s a lot that we can do to change our appearance, but there are no clothes, tattoos, or plastic surgery that can make us more socially confident.
Confidence is an internal/psychological characteristic. It is our opinion of ourselves.
How do we compare ourselves to the crowd?
Are we the most sociable, attractive, fit, tallest?
All of these characteristics have weight because society said so, and some of us bought it.
Skeptics might cite studies which support the notion that certain body types are more attractive on average. That being said, it is better to focus on things within our control.
It might sound as if I’m telling you to conform to society’s expectations. Short answer, yes.
I highly advise people to exercise and dress up to boost confidence and health (physio-psycho-social).
Long answer. I want everyone to be comfortable being themselves. I run errands, get coffee, and grab food in my pajamas. Personally, I don’t care what people think of how I dress, and neither should you.
However, when I go out on a date with a new person, I dress up. First impressions are huge. Being comfortable with ourselves doesn’t prevent judgement from others.
Our physical appearance will be the first thing that people see, present yourself the way you want to be presented.
So, how do we become confident and comfortable with who we are?
Tips to becoming ourselves. Change things up!
Try a new hair-style every 6 months. Not because you are dissatisfied with the way it looks, but because we are constantly changing as individuals. Why shouldn’t our hair? Tired of styling it? Cut it off. Want to run your fingers through it? Grow it out. Don’t get too attached.
Find the most comfortable clothes. Have you ever worn a shirt two-sizes too big, or active wear? Try out new materials. Jeans aren’t that comfortable…
Ditch the makeup and hair products (or try them, if you haven’t). Slip a beanie on, or pat your hair down, walk out the door. People will look at you differently. So what?
You’re beautiful. Remind yourself. Show yourself. You are fine the way you look, but knowing how to be the most attractive/powerful version of yourself is useful knowledge.
Look up your favorite celebrity or business person. How do they look?
A lot of celebrities will play to their strengths. Accentuating their “attractive” qualities, and hiding their insecurities behind clothes and makeup. A couple of minutes on Google images will humanize any individual.
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