“The fight is won or lost far away from witnesses—behind the lines, in the gym and out there on the road, long before I dance under those lights.” – Muhammad Ali
Put yourself in proximity for a proper conversation.
The environment will play a large role in determining acceptable space.
If you are in a quiet place, a couple of feet is sufficient.
A club environment might necessitate inches to hear.
Don’t be afraid to lean in and say what’s on your mind.
“The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero uses his fear, projects it onto his opponent, while the coward runs. It’s the same thing, fear, but it’s what you do with it that matters.” – Legendary trainer, Cus D’Amato
Approaching someone at a bar or work (e.g. boss) can be stressful.
It is always worth having an uncomfortable conversation.
Prepare as best you can, and go.
If you have been working really hard at work, express your interest in a higher position.
Ask what you need to improve on to get promoted.
If you see someone attractive while out, approach her.
Prepare as best you, and go.
Ask her what her name is.
The more uncomfortable conversations you have, the easier they get.
Never run away from a conversation.
“Roll with the punches” – Unknown
Conversations ebb and flow.
You need to listen, adapt to what she is saying, and respond.
It is difficult to have a conversation with only highs. Nearly impossible.
Pay attention to your surroundings to provide stimulus for your conversation.
People watching and atmosphere are great topics for small talk.
“A champion is someone who gets up when he can’t.” – Jack Dempsey
Rejections knock you down.
If she isn’t interested in talking to you, that’s fine (there could be thousands of reasons why).
After rejection, take some time to reflect. What went wrong, and what could I do differently?
Another employee might be more qualified.
Take the criticism, figure out how to correct it.
Work harder, and work smarter (figure out how to become more efficient in your role, ask co-workers).
Please comment with success stories and questions 🙂