It is easy to get caught up in the rush of modern society. There are so many people in a city, the thought of talking to someone can seem overwhelming.
You tell yourself, “that person doesn’t want to talk to me, they don’t care or have time”. We avoid eye contact with people on the street, and focus on our phones.
The truth is, people do care. Do you?
When was the last time you started a conversation with someone new?
The smallest acts have profound consequences.
1. Say Hello!
You go to your favorite restaurant/coffee shop.
Then, someone opens the door for you (thank them/say nothing).
Get in line to order (Say hello/say nothing).
You smile and say “Hello!” (Follow-up with name/say nothing).
You place your order and wait (thank them/say nothing).
Receive your order (thank them/say nothing).
The previous example is simplistic, but it is reminiscent of our daily interactions. There were at least 5 instances where you could have said something.
How many of those opportunities do you take?
Some people say they dislike “small talk” because it lacks substance.
I (Tyler) encourage these people to take the place of the person serving their coffee.
How many people does your cashier see on a daily basis? Hundreds.
How many of them take the time to converse and get to know her? Few. (Generally the regulars)
There’s no excuse for ignoring a person who is helping you out.
Look them in the eyes, smile, and say hello.
They might not respond in kind, but that’s alright, do not let their disinterest influence you.
2. What’s your name?
You have become a regular at your coffee shop/restaurant.
You walk up to the cashier and say, “Hey, how’s your day so far?”
Then, you ask the cashier for their name
They tell you (use word association to remember their name)
Do not be afraid to ask again if you forget
You: “Nice to meet you…”
Our names are attached to who we are.
Calling someone by their name is the first step toward showing interest.
Building social confidence is a process, saying “hello” and knowing a person’s name is just the beginning.
Meet at least one new person, and ask for their name.
Please share your favorite conversation starters 🙂